soulmates.

..."love is the answer, at least for the questions in my heart:
why are we here, where do we go, and howcome this so hard?
it's not always easy, and sometimes life can be deceiving.
i'll tell you one thing: it's so much better when we're together..."


where did the term soul mate even come from? do they really exist? do people really believe that two souls are meant to be together? What if you have a soul mate, but there's no way for you two to be together? How does that work in the whole spectrum of things? If you can't be with your soul mate, what the hell is the point of having him/her?

according to greek mythology, the idea of soul mates is this: "humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and one single head with two faces." Zeus, fearing the power of these twin souls, "split them in half, condemning them to spend their lives searching for their other half." (wikipedia.com)

What?? Here's my take on this: alright, fine. Together, the souls had a lot of power, so they got split up. Fine. BUT, in present day, we are told: "you need to be successful, you need to focus on your career, you need to make something out of yourself. focus on school, your studies, your career." Everything is about work, and that's fine and dandy and all, but by doing focusing and fighting for that dream career, how will you have time to find that twin soul of yours? I'm sure that your soul mate can be lingering around your corner, working in their office, in a different department or something, but what if you never get a chance to speak to them? What if there is nothing in common? What if there is no attraction? What if. What if. So many questions that go unanswered in my mind about this phenonmenon. Sure, you can meet at the annual Christmas party, but that seems a little too easy to me. Where's the "search" factor? And, here's another question: What if someone believes in this so much that they search so hard, and they think they've found it. What if they get it wrong? What if they just forced themself into thinking this was his/her soulmate because they don't want to be alone? Can that happen? I'm sure it does, everyday, in fact - not to be a debbie downer, but it's true. it could happen. What if it's forced?

Another idea is the idea from Theosophy: "God created androgynous souls, equally male and female." Fine, but this still doesn't answer my question. Oh, wait. there's more: "Later theories postulate that souls split into seperate genders, perhaps because they incurred karma while playing around on the Earth, or "separation from God." Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate."

As a Catholic, we're not really suppose to believe in reincarnation. I know this is Greek mythology, but what if we want to believe this? If we do, does that mean we're going against our religion? Oyyy vey. This is a little too much for me. I know this is a myth, but here is the solid question I put with everything: What if? Oh, and the most important question that I have: So, we are reincarnated to search for our soul mate until we get it right. If we don't find them in this life, we get another try. If we don't find them in this life, though, is that a life wasted? Because, according to this myth, we are searching for our twin soul, our other half. No life is ever wasted, in my opinion. Each life is here for a reason, some reasons we have no idea, but God does. How many times do we need to be reincarnated before we find them? What if we're reincarnated at different times?? What if I am 2, but my soulmate is 43? How the hell does that work? I'm giving myself a headache..

The other day, I watched the movie "What Dreams May Come," which I absolutely loved. I watched it for class when I was younger, and I remember loving it. This time, being only the second time I watched it, I was able to understand it more, and I thought about this whole soulmate thing, hence this outlandish discussion on it. I guess the author, because it was originally a book, believed in the whole reincarnation-soul mate thing because that's the direction the movie went. Of course, there was a happy ending, and I cried my eyes out.

What if things don't work out with your soul mate? Does that mean you were living a lie? You spent your whole life thinking that this person was your other half, but in reality, they weren't. Maybe it was the forced relationship from the Christmas party. Do you keep searching, or do you give up? So many people give up on looking. What about them? Some people shut themselves down. What about them?

I don't know if I have found my soul mate or not, but I think it's the closest thing I'll ever have to one. We understand each other, we laugh. We have argued, but we always want to be friends again. We always find some way back to each other. We accept each other's flaws, and we can joke about those flaws, but at the end of the day, we can compliment each other.

A teacher of mine told our class that you should always find someone that is better than you, someone that makes you a better person, someone you look up to, and to never settle. he is definitely better than me in every aspect. what if soul mates are just good friends and will never be anything else?